I have been watching teen mom, and reading posts from parents all over the net, and people really amaze me at how they feel parenting is “soo hard”. Really? I mean, yes, the decisions that you have to make for your child and the responsibility that goes into that can be hard and confusing, but making little things into big deals just amaze me. Everyone thought I was going to be this crazy mom that was frantic about everything in life…my closest friends told me they were worried about me when I announced my pregnancy with Xavier. They now come up to me and laugh and say how wrong they were about my parenting. Maybe I am just a to the point type person, but raising a child is not brain surgery….especially when you are a stay at home mom.
I was at the store the other day, there was a child walking, and talking…so I would put this child over a year old…..with a bottle. Parents….unacceptable! A child should not have a bottle past 12 months…no excuses in my book. I had my child off the bottle at 10 months….what did I do…I switched to a sippy cup. One day I put the formula in the cup and gave it to him. He was like “what is this” I showed him how to use it and BANG he had a sipper…and I threw away the bottles. Why did I do this? Easy. It was time for him to switch. I never had to worry about him needing a bottle to sleep….why….because I never gave him a bottle to go to sleep or to nap…which is the number one thing the doctors tell you not to do in the first place. It just goes back to common sense. A child is not going to starve, they don’t drink out of the sipper, you just keep giving it to them….they will eventually take it. Babies are not stupid.
Binkies. First off, I hate them. I hate them so much I didn’t want to give Xavier one, but I did…because I was a freak about SIDS and they said they are good for preventing SIDS…so I gave one. I honestly do not know when I took these away, but it was no more than 15 months…why…because he had teeth! Xavier started biting through those little rubber pieces of grossness so I threw them out. Did he want it to go to sleep…yes….did he cry….yes….who cares? He cried himself to sleep and that was it. He looked for his binkies, even pulled a few out of hiding….which i threw away. It took 2 days….and they were gone. Call me a bitch, but I am the parent and I was sick of seeing them, and I just had to get rid of them. Easy.
These are the things that make me crazy about parents. They act like these things are the hardest things in the world to do…but they aren’t….it is called standing your ground. If this is what parents think is hard, what are they going to do when their kids start getting picked on in school….or worse yet….have the bullies. Parenting is not scary when you are the parent and put your foot down and stand the parenting grounds.
People might think I am hard on my child…but really…I am not….I just get things done and do not let life get in the way of me teaching my son and getting him more independent. The last thing I want is my toddler/child depending on a piece of plastic to suck on to go to sleep…it is not necessary. It drives me more crazy when stay at home parents are the ones to complain and do some of these things. Why? Our job is to parent 24 hours 7 days a week, that is what we do….I dedicate my life to my child…so if he cries one night all night…guess what….that is my job, but my child doesn’t have a bottle or a plastic piece of grossness…!
I really should write a book. I actually should start a website with pictures of kids that I see wondering around stores that make me crazy. I just look at parents in amazement sometimes.
If anyone is reading this, it is not about anyone…this is just my feelings, especially after seeing this at the store the other day and then watching “teen mom” last night and seeing more. Certain things drive me nuts….that is why I blog!