Before I got pregnant I read a lot of about women getting pregnant after gastric bypass. My doctor does not recommend it until 18 months post op, at least. Do I trust him? Completely. Did I completely listen…almost. I figured a few months off wouldn’t hurt since I am very strict with my diet and exercise and I felt comfortable with my decision. I have read that women have gotten pregnant a few months post op, even a year post op and I always looked at them as irresponsible, not just to themselves but to the baby. I mean, I did this surgery to get healthy, and honestly at the time of surgery my husband and I did not want more kids.
What changed my mind about wanting kids? I was over a year post op and down to almost my goal weight. I really thought about it and I knew I wanted to give Xavier a brother or sister. I was also healthier. I did not want to have another baby being obese and on top of that being high risk for blood clots. Being obese puts you at risk for clots by itself, being pregnant and obese would just put me at a risk that I was not going to do, not for me but for my family and a baby that needed to grow inside me…was not fair to anyone.
SOO…when my husband and I did decide that maybe I was able to have another baby the healthy way we sat down with my doctor and discussed it. He agreed that I would still have to take precautions because of the clots, but being at a healthy weight, it would bring down my chances…I would just have to take the blood thinners throughout the pregnancy as a precaution.
Since I read how people had no problems with pregnancy after gastric bypass, and the type of “I can do anything I want” type of person that I am, I thought it would be a breeze…I mean I had one baby, how hard can a second be…right? WRONG! I am finding out that being pregnant and being a post op is harder then I thought it would be.
Why is it harder? One of the big things is getting enough food in. Before being pregnant I was good at getting 700-800 calories in a day and it being perfect for me. I never thought about getting anymore, or having to get in more. Well, when you get pregnant you need to increase your calorie intake by 200…that is it….do not let anyone tell you different. Increasing your calories by 200 will give you a nice healthy 20lb weight gain during the 9 months. This is easy for a regular person…for a post op….eating 200 calories extra is very hard. Some people might be like “eat a freaking candy bar” or something like that….but us post ops can’t just eat junk…..remember… SUGAR MAKES US DUMP.
That brings me to sugar….being pregnant, I have to watch even the amount of carbs I am taking in, because to digest carbs the body makes glucose….which if you mix with other sugars in that meal lead me to dumping. I can go from anywhere to feeling sick and sweating, to puking/dry heaving if nothing is in my “pouch”. I usually have to just lay down and let it pass.
I haven’t blogged about it yet, but once you have surgery you go through about a 4 month phase of trying every food again to see if your new pouch can handle it…well I am doing that right now being pregnant…now that the morning sickness has passed I am trying everything over again…slowly and in little bites to see if I can handle it. It is hard.
Do I recommend getting pregnant after surgery? Of course, but I do not think anyone should do it soon after surgery, I think 2 years is best to wait, if not more. I personally have it hard…maybe my pouch is more sensitive than others. I know I am more sensitive to most when it comes to sugar. I really have to watch that. I think that it is better to be at a lower weight then get pregnant when obese. I would much rather be going through what I am doing then be 289lbs and pregnant again, but it is hard…do not let people tell you it is easy. Getting in the calories everyday so you do not feel light headed and sick all the time is hard. I carry pretzels with me (butter flavored because that is my weakness right now) hahaha….!
Honestly, I am 4 months pregnant today and there is not a day that goes by “yet” that I am not light headed from not getting enough to eat. I am hoping that I learn soon how to up my calories being healthy and have that feeling go away. I am doing everything I can to be as healthy as possible. It is hard…but I am determined.
I will keep everyone updated!